The YWCA is proud to tell you about our most recent success story. A single grandparent household has just moved into her own apartment. This woman came to North Dakota to be with family, and when she arrived with one of her daughters and three grandchildren, her plans for a place to live fell through. They had traveled far, and tried to make it work by finding jobs and looking for apartments that they could afford. Her daughter had decided that trying to force her situation was not worth what she left behind in her home state, so she packed up and left with two of her children. After a very hard goodbye, Grandma and one of her grandchildren moved into the shelter.
The YWCA learned so much about the triumphs this woman had been through. She was not perfect, but she was honest about those imperfections. This woman served as “grandma” to all the residents living in the YWCA shelter, and tried to offer advice and wisdom to many younger women.
Finally, after a long wait here in North Dakota, an apartment came through for her and her grandchild. The YWCA was able to help her with clothing, all the necessities, and help filling out assistance applications, so that her and her grandchild would have the very best possible chance at success. The YWCA was also able to help pay for her deposit and some rent to get her started, and she is now out on her own……grandchild in tow. This woman is a true story of perseverance, resiliency, and has the belief that if she does the right things, good things will happen. If you are interested in this woman’s full story, she has agreed to share it at the YWCA Women of Distinction Banquet - tickets available here. It will be a story of inspiration and change you won’t want to miss it!
A woman came to the YWCA as a referral from another shelter in the area. She had been through many life struggles, health issues, and traumatic experiences. While at the YWCA, her health continued to deteriorate and she was trying everything she could to feel better, including going to multiple doctors and getting different results at every appointment. I could see it was taking a bigger toll on her as she was attempting to get some solutions to her problems.
"This woman was grateful for every last bit of help and encouragement, and I could not help but cry when she left."
Throughout her journey here, the YWCA was able to help her with co-pays and prescription medications/supplements, transportation, and even a deposit on a place to call her own. Without any family in the area for support, she remained very positive. Ups and Downs are normal, but with all the confirmed medical issues, she still tried to see the positive in everything! She moved into her own place and it was a bittersweet goodbye for me. This woman was grateful for every last bit of help and encouragement, and I could not help but cry when she left. Anyone who knows me, knows I don't get too attached, but this one was different. I don't know many people who would have been able to stay positive and still manage to laugh and see the bright side of life after having gone through what she had. I feel grateful to have met her and I wish her nothing but the best of luck, with an attitude like that, she will succeed in anything she does.......I just hope she stays in touch so I can see!
A big thank you to our grantors who enable us to help in the way we do! Successes like these are what keeps the YWCA going and without you we would not be able to make a positive impact on women's lives in the community of Minot.
We have a young woman who ended up homeless after getting into a car wreck. She was unable to keep her job due to the effects of her accident, and therefore was unable to pay rent, leaving her with nowhere to turn. She called the YWCA, came into the shelter, stayed her 60 days and was able to get a new job within 1 week with her active CNA license. This woman was able to rent an apartment through a local agency with the help of the YWCA for deposit assistance. This woman took the steps to find a mental health counselor that worked with her, and with just a week long extension at our facility she is now able to live on her own. She is under 25 years of age and has endured many things that I could not even dream of, and I hope she is proud of herself for the accomplishments she has made. Congratulations, the YWCA is grateful to share this story and wishes her nothing but success and positive thoughts in her future.
A woman who has suffered many losses in her life has made it through her pain and FINALLY sees a light at the end of the tunnel. She came to the YWCA after sleeping under the 3rd St. Bridge for many nights. She has a history of drug and alcohol use. After getting clean she was able to pass a drug test and breath test. Many of us can say we know someone who has suffered with a drug and alcohol problem, it changes that person, and it can change the way we think of that person. It can also change loved ones around the addict because of having to live with that person. It’s not easy for anyone involved.
“She came into the YWCA with nothing. She had no identification, and only a small purse with some items in it.”
This woman has the ability to be a true inspiration to others. I’m not going to go into depth with her story, because it is not mine to tell, however, she came into the YWCA with nothing. She had no identification, and only a small purse with some items in it. Staff of the YWCA gave her a couple pairs of socks and a small bag of hygiene items. After coming to the YWCA she was able to get connected with a job resource where she gets paid to work in the community at a placement site. She has saved up some money and was able to get into one of the YWCA’s Permanent supportive housing units. This was also made possible by community action partnership in Minot, who came and inspected the apartment and paid for the deposit.
“Her ability to take accountability is remarkable”
This woman would tell you she did not like me at first. I sat at my desk and pulled up her colorful record. I read everything off too her, she stood up and said, “I don’t know why you’re picking on me.” And walked out the door. I was happy to see her the next day asking if she could talk to me. She stated that when I did that it forced her to look at her life and see things she was not proud of and she had been running away from for long enough. Just last week the staff and this woman were talking about the analogy of me serving up the piles of crap she had taken in her life on a silver platter. Allowing her to smell each one to get to the silver lining. Now, three months later, she still deals with obstacles, but with a smile on her face and laughter in her voice. I look forward to seeing her achieve success through obtaining goals that she came up with for herself. Her ability to take accountability is remarkable. It’s the little things, the small steps, the mindset, and the attitude of gratitude that get people through.
“Wow, you mean I get a choice?”
This reminds me of a time in my own life where depression took over. I guess my mother got tired of watching me not wanting to function and she said the most obvious thing, “You know, life is what you make it Gina.” That was over 10 years ago and I still think about it often. It was like a light bulb went off, an epiphany. Wow, you mean I get a choice? I thought I just had to feel that way that those were the cards dealt to me. But, with this new found freedom, I got to make choices about my attitude, about how I was going to feel that day!
This woman, who utilized all of the YWCA’s resources, is a great reminder of how the choices we make can define us … or they can RE-define us into what we CHOOSE.
Without a doubt, everyone has had a time that they have needed to persevere though – some may have faced more difficultly than others, may have been affected differently or might have dealt with it differently. We, at the YWCA, would be interested to hear about your experiences and how you dealt with them – you never know, your experience may help another reader or someone at our shelter! For now however, we have our own success story to share about a recent resident of our shelter… Here at the YWCA Minot, a single mother of three children under 10, has finally found her own apartment. She spent week after week looking for day care, calling around with no luck. She found that child care assistance could not be obtained without a job and that a job could not be obtained without child care assistance. How backwards does that seem? She persevered through tears and frustration, and after almost a month was able to get child care. After that everything fell into place, she obtained a job and was then able to get into an affordable apartment with room for all 4 of them. The YWCA Minot supported her with help with her deposit, thanks to one of our granting agencies. This young mother really is an inspiration to all those struggling out there.