A woman who has suffered many losses in her life has made it through her pain and FINALLY sees a light at the end of the tunnel. She came to the YWCA after sleeping under the 3rd St. Bridge for many nights. She has a history of drug and alcohol use. After getting clean she was able to pass a drug test and breath test. Many of us can say we know someone who has suffered with a drug and alcohol problem, it changes that person, and it can change the way we think of that person. It can also change loved ones around the addict because of having to live with that person. It’s not easy for anyone involved.
“She came into the YWCA with nothing. She had no identification, and only a small purse with some items in it.”
This woman has the ability to be a true inspiration to others. I’m not going to go into depth with her story, because it is not mine to tell, however, she came into the YWCA with nothing. She had no identification, and only a small purse with some items in it. Staff of the YWCA gave her a couple pairs of socks and a small bag of hygiene items. After coming to the YWCA she was able to get connected with a job resource where she gets paid to work in the community at a placement site. She has saved up some money and was able to get into one of the YWCA’s Permanent supportive housing units. This was also made possible by community action partnership in Minot, who came and inspected the apartment and paid for the deposit.
“Her ability to take accountability is remarkable”
This woman would tell you she did not like me at first. I sat at my desk and pulled up her colorful record. I read everything off too her, she stood up and said, “I don’t know why you’re picking on me.” And walked out the door. I was happy to see her the next day asking if she could talk to me. She stated that when I did that it forced her to look at her life and see things she was not proud of and she had been running away from for long enough. Just last week the staff and this woman were talking about the analogy of me serving up the piles of crap she had taken in her life on a silver platter. Allowing her to smell each one to get to the silver lining. Now, three months later, she still deals with obstacles, but with a smile on her face and laughter in her voice. I look forward to seeing her achieve success through obtaining goals that she came up with for herself. Her ability to take accountability is remarkable. It’s the little things, the small steps, the mindset, and the attitude of gratitude that get people through.
“Wow, you mean I get a choice?”
This reminds me of a time in my own life where depression took over. I guess my mother got tired of watching me not wanting to function and she said the most obvious thing, “You know, life is what you make it Gina.” That was over 10 years ago and I still think about it often. It was like a light bulb went off, an epiphany. Wow, you mean I get a choice? I thought I just had to feel that way that those were the cards dealt to me. But, with this new found freedom, I got to make choices about my attitude, about how I was going to feel that day!
This woman, who utilized all of the YWCA’s resources, is a great reminder of how the choices we make can define us … or they can RE-define us into what we CHOOSE.